Okay, so I have a question. And pleeeeease don’t jump down my throat for asking this because this is not about stirring up some unnecessary drama. This is a genuine question to figure out WTF to do. So here’s the dealio. As many of you know, we’re headed to Disney this summer (because you know, Orlando sounds so comfortable and not humid at all that time of year).
Well, the other day I did something kinda impulsive. When I was planning the trip, I stumbled upon this cool thing, and I offered it to Zoey.
ME: Hey, Zoey, I have a question. So there’s this thing at Disney called the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique, and it’s pretty expensive but if you wanted to get that instead of having a birthday party this year, we could get it for you.
ZOEY: What is it?
ME: They do your hair all fancy and your nails and they dress you up like a beautiful princess.
The second it left my lips, I was like that is NOT something she would like.
ZOEY: Yeah, I want to do that!
ME: You do?!!
She loves superheroes, and her favorite colors are green and blue, and she loves raiding her brother’s closet, and hates getting her hair brushed. Princesses? I mean this is the kid who pretends to barf when I sing Let it Go.
ME: Seriously? Are you sure? It would be instead of doing a big birthday party this year.
I remind her several times so she doesn’t freak out when her birthday rolls around and we don’t have a party.
ZOEY: I want it! I want to be Pocahontas. No wait, maybe Mulan. No, Pocahontas. Or Mulan.
ME: You don’t have to decide right now. Lemme see if it’s even still available.
So that night I went online to check into it a little more, and while I was looking into the details, I read the list of princesses they have to choose from: Anna, Elsa, Ariel, Snow White, Aurora, Belle, Jasmine, Cinderella, Tinker Bell, Tiana, Rapunzel, and Merida.
Ruh-rohhhh. Me no see Mulan or Pocahontas.
And I started to wonder why. I mean they listed pretty much every princess there is except for those two and Moana. Is it a popularity thing? Like do not enough kids want to dress up as those characters? But then I was like noooo, why would that matter? I mean it’s not like Disney can’t stash a few of those costumes in a back closet somewhere.
So then I was like hmmmm, is it because of the whole cultural appropriation thing? I mean Disney is okay selling those costumes (I checked to make sure and they do), but maybe they don’t want kids standing in their boutique taking pictures of themselves dressed up as an indigenous woman or a Chinese girl? What’s the reason?
I don’t know. Like I literally don’t know.
But here’s what I do know. Zoey has seen all the princess movies. She’s watched Sleeping Beauty a thousand times and even though she pretends to gag herself at the mere mention of Elsa, once upon a time a lonnnnng time ago, she LOVED Frozen.
But those aren’t the princesses she wants to be. She wants to be Mulan or Pocahontas. And I’m not surprised. I mean this is the kid who walked into the American Girl Doll store where they literally have a hundreds of dolls so you can choose the one that looks just like you, and guess what she walked out with?
This is the kid who LOVED learning about Native-American people so much in school that that she literally threw a birthday party at a place that could teach the kids about many indigenous cultures.
Maybe you remember what she wore.
And when she wore it, I got ripped a new one. I honestly thought she was just a kid embracing the people she has a passion for, but LOTS of people jumped down my throat about it and told me how wrong it was. Part of me understood where they were coming from, while another part of me saw a girl with only the best intentions.
Anyways, back to Mulan and Pocahontas.
I’m so proud of Zoey for picking the princesses she loves the most. The ones she truly admires for what they do, and not just the ones that look like her and share the same color of skin.
Which leads me to my question. I can easily book the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique and let her pick from one of the princesses they offer. Or I can buy one of these two dresses that are available online through Disney and bring them with.
But is it wrong? Does the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique not offer them because they could be offensive or is it just because they’re not popular? Is it wrong for a girl to dress up like Pocahontas or Mulan if those are her favorites?
A mom who can’t believe she’s saying this, but a birthday party would’ve been easier
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