How to deal with your family when they’re being ungrateful dingleberries (with a special offer from Blue Apron!!)

La la la la laaaaa, I’m making a lovely dinner for my family and just having a good ole time sipping on my wine while I cook, but I’m getting close to finishing, so I call to Holden in from the other room…

ME: Hey buddy, can you please come set the table?!!

But his TV show is playing so loud that he must not hear me. So a few minutes later, I call to him again.

ME: Holden!!! Come in and set the table please!!


Ummm, WTF. I can tell he’s totally ignoring me.


This time I get a response.

HOLDEN: Mommmm, stop yelling so loud! I can’t hear my show!!

Oh no he di’n’t. Oh yes he did.

ME: You have two choices, mister!! You can either pause that show right now and get in here and set the table, or you are not getting any dinner tonight.

Guess which one he chooses? And let’s just say, there’s no such thing as an empty threat in this house. Fine, I gave him two choices and he can deal with the repercussions.

So I call to Zoey who’s upstairs.

ME: (yelling) Zoey, dinner’s almost ready! Please wash your hands and come pour drinks for everyone!!

ZOEY: (yelling back) I can’t, I’m going to the bathroom!!

ME: Okay, when you’re done!

But then I hear something. Wait a sec, she’s totally lying. I can literally hear her dancing in her room, and unless my hubby installed a new porta-potty that sticks to your butt and travels with you, I’m pretty sure she is NOT going to the bathroom.

Okay, now I’m pissed. So I call to my hubby to help motivate the kids (translation: kick some serious butt) but again, no reply. AGGGGHHHH, WTF?!!!! So I leave the kitchen to go stick my head in his office to ask him for help, but he’s not there. Hmm, I thought he said he was working while I was making dinner.

Now I’m about to lose it. So I start searching around the house and that’s when I find him. Oh, you have got to be kidding me…

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This week I made Summer Vegetable Gnocchi and Sweet and Spicy Chicken Lettuce Cups (one of Chrissy Teigen’s recipes!!) and they were both delicious. I even gave the kids some of the chicken before I mixed in the veggies and Holden gave it a big thumbs up! Zoey gave it a thumbs sideways, but that’s actually awesome because that’s her highest rating for anything besides a PB&J.

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Okay, now back to our regularly scheduled programming.

So I’m looking around for my hubby and getting more and more annoyed, when I suddenly notice that the back door is unlocked. So I look outside. Are you F’ing kidding me? Guess who’s sitting out there in an Adirondack chair. And I can literally see his phone through the window, and he’s scrolling through Instagram and chilling out while I’m slaving away in the kitchen getting dinner ready for everyone. I mean not really slaving away, but F if I’m gonna make dinner, set the table, pour the drinks, round up the douchenuggets and do allllllll the work myself while everyone else in this family is off having a party.

I’m about to bang on the glass (and slobber on it like Cujo) when my phone buzzes. It’s a text from my friend down the street apparently having the same kind of night I’m having. She says…

And suddenly I have a brilliant idea.

And here’s what I do. I quickly jot a note.

I grab the meal I just cooked, and I get in the car and go. I don’t say goodbye to anyone. I just walk out the door and slam it. They’re probably too busy watching TV, fake-pooping, and surfing the Internet to even notice. Whatevs, they’ll notice as soon as their stomachs start growling.

And I drive straight to my friend’s house.

And guess what? She doesn’t say she’s busy watching TV or pooping or anything else. Less than three seconds later, she bolts out her front door.

FRIEND: Yummmmmm. What are you holding?!!!

ME: Gnocchi. Want some?

FRIEND: Yessssss.

And we plop down on her front step and have the most awesome meal ever. And she totally appreciates my cooking and I totally appreciate her company. And her wine.

And by the time we’re done eating, I’ve vented enough and laughed enough to go home to my family a little less angry. Of course, if they ask me for dinner the second I walk in the door (which I’m sure they will), I’m texting my friend to meet me somewhere for ice cream.

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There are 12 comments for this article
  1. Steph at 9:56 am

    Totally needed this today! Going through this very same situation with my family. I do it all and I’m done! Thank you, I’m off to have a glass of brunch wine!

  2. Apebro at 10:37 am

    Nobody realizes all the things you do until you stop doing them.

  3. Carol Byrne at 11:42 am

    That is the best solution.

  4. Julia Cornell at 2:41 pm

    What is it with our families ? The one I get most upset about is my hubs sitting on the sofa, playing video games (not even with the kids, just allowing them to watch “the master”) and ignoring me when I give 10-5 minute warnings when dinner is almost ready. THEN, when that time is up, he says, “Oh, let me get through with this mission. I’ll only be a minute.” Meanwhile , dinner is getting cold and I’m slamming cabinets and he’s still farting around on the video game for 30-f-ing-minutes!

    • Tara at 7:41 am

      So let their dinner get cold. Fix your plate, sit down and eat. This is what I have started doing. Once I’ve given the 10 min, 5 min, dinner’s ready warning, if no one comes to the table, I sit and eat. And once I sit down, I don’t get back up to serve anyone, they can get their own food.

  5. Sarah at 6:16 pm

    You’re amazing! I am not sure I would have the guts to do this!! Love it!

    (also your vacation tips were AMAZING – no kids yet, but I am saving that email to reference later!)

  6. PirateJenny at 11:22 pm

    LOL!! Excellent! I need the sequel also!

  7. Julie Frueh at 9:06 pm

    I go on strike quite often. My trigger is all the dirty dishes piled up in the sink and on the counter ~ while the empty, lonely dishwasher just sits there begging for attention.
    PS ~ I always have wine. Stop by anytime!
    PPS ~ We’re Old School and happen to be sort of neighbors ~ we’re in the book that occasionally lands at the end of the driveway. ??