Is it time to end the blog?

So about a week ago, Zoey and I were driving back from Lollapalooza and we had a long car ride, and at first she said she was going to sleep on the way home, but we ended up talking instead. Car rides are the absolute BEST time to talk about serious things with your kids if you ask me because it’s uninterrupted time where you don’t have to look at each other.

Anyways, I don’t exactly know how the conversation came to this, but at some point Zoey said, “There are good things about you having the blog and there are bad things.” As soon as she said it, my heart shot through my esophagus and up into my throat. Was starting the blog a big mistake? This is the question that has always haunted the back of my mind.

The thing is, when I started it I had no idea what it would become. I was a writer. Zoey was only like 18 months old. I just wrote a funny little story about a time I had to change her diaper at the local library and I put it up on wordpress. It was just me having fun, writing a story, and sharing it with like 3 people.

And over time and a few more blogs, 3 people became 6 people, and then 6 became 170, and that’s when I knew I made it. 170 people were reading my stuff!!! It felt amazing.

But I was careful. I distinctly remember a moment when Zoey said something hilarious but embarrassing. My hubby and I both looked at each other and said, “That’s NOT going on the blog.” Right then and there we had a conversation about what I would and wouldN’T share. And if you’re wondering what she said, I’ll never tell.

Anyways, if you were one of those 170 people, you might remember what happened next. I wrote a little post called “What NOT to F’ing Buy My Kids this Holiday.” I pushed publish, and then I grabbed Zoey and headed to her gymnastics class. Little did I know, that one post would change everything.

As I sat there watching Zoey tumble this way and that, I had my laptop on my lap and I saw the numbers rising and rising. I thought it was some kind of technological glitch. And then the comments started pouring in. And then my Facebook page started to grow. Insanely.

I did NOT plan this.

I just wanted to write my stories. I just wanted to be real. I didn’t want to set up beautiful pictures or sell stuff or take cute videos of my kids and share them with the world. I just loved writing. 

So when Zoey told me there are good things about the blog and bad things, I had a small panic attack in my head. Was it a huge mistake? The kids have gotten so much from it—gifts, vacations, concert tickets. But they’ve also lost plenty—privacy, anonymity, a camera taking a lot of pictures and videos all the time. 

Even though I was freaking out on the inside, I calmly asked Zoey to tell me some of the good things and the bad things, so I’d know what she was talking about. And she started to. She had great points. Great, honest points. And I’d be lying if I said it calmed my nerves. If anything, it made me really question what I’ve done. She didn’t sound upset or angry. In fact, she even said she was proud of me. But a lot of things came out. Some things that I’ve thought about, and some that I hadn’t thought of. She was just being honest.

She loves that we’ve gotten to go on great trips. She loves that she gets to say her mom is an influencer. She loves that we’ve done a lot of fun things. But she doesn’t love when strangers come up to her and know who she is. She doesn’t love that her friends read about her. She doesn’t love that some people know more about her life than she does.

I sat there taking it all in.

And when she was done speaking, I asked something I wasn’t planning on asking.

“Zoey, do you want me to stop the blog?”

She didn’t hesitate. “No.”

“Are you sure?”


But I wanted to make something clear to her.

“I just want you to know something. You have a red button in front of you. And anytime you want me to end it, all you have to do is push the button. Seriously, it’s entirely up to you.”

But she said she wouldn’t push it. She said she loves the blog. She loves that she can look back at all the pictures and stories and read about her life. And I made sure to remind her that it’s not her whole life, that there are plenty of things I haven’t shared. And I asked her if she wanted me to run things past her before I share them from now on. She said no, that she likes reading the posts and being surprised.  

So the blog will continue just the way it is. For now. Hindsight is 20/20, and knowing what I know today, I think I would have changed a lot. But I’m just an imperfect mom, doing the best I can. Making a blog, making mistakes, but most of all, making great, creative, kind, loud and sometimes annoying, but mostly AWESOME kids. 

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There are 13 comments for this article
  1. Debra at 7:42 pm

    I’m with Zoey!!! Don’t end it!! I remember that story about the gifts. My daughter and son are each just alittle younger than yours and it all resonates with me!!

  2. Chuck Schwartz at 7:43 pm

    That was really nice. And I know it was coming straight from the heart.

    • Lu Brammer at 7:51 pm

      Honesty and a great relationship right there. Bravo. It is not an easy task and you’re winning.

  3. Cheryl at 7:51 pm

    I 100% understand where you are coming from, but not gonna lie…when I read the title, my heart stopped. I held my breath until the end. I can’t tell you how many times I have referenced something that you’ve said, it recommended your blog. You are so relatable and have helped so many people navigate this whole parenting thing. So thank you, Zoey.

  4. Jen Mierisch at 7:54 pm

    I don’t want you to end the blog either but I’d totally understand if you did. I write too, and for a while I was part of a group that did creative nonfiction. There were moms that would go totally TMI about their kids’ lives. I couldn’t put mine in the spotlight like that. I feared they’d hate me forever. But I did write about one particular pool day with my kids, when my youngest jumped off the high dive for the first time, and it was one of the first pieces of writing I ever sold, because it resonated with people. It’s such a balancing act, sharing some but not too much. I get it. Your blog has resonated with so many of us and cracked us up for years. No matter what you do next, I will always appreciate what you’ve already given us ❤️

  5. M at 8:43 pm

    Car rides are the best place to talk. Taking my son on college visits and to far away tournaments have been awesome. I love just chatting with him.

  6. Diane Halperin at 9:02 pm

    You are a wonderful mother, wife and daughter! I love reading your blogs and it brings back some great memories!

  7. Jo at 9:45 pm

    My son just started his Junior year. He has often been in the spotlight with my job, and we’ve had similar conversations. I run all posts by him now, and for friends only, not public. That was our mutual decision. I love that you ASKED Zoey what makes her comfortable. Every kid is different. You are a great mom and have helped me realize I’m not alone on this journey.

  8. Sara at 8:04 am

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful experience with your readers. I have been a faithful reader since the beginning and have found so much comfort in raising my kids with your voice in my ear. Recently, I’ve been contemplating a smaller big decision in my own family and have been seeking guidance from women 20-30 years my senior. One thing that has stuck with me is that some of them regret having given their own children as much decision making responsibility as they did. Some of them said that their now adult children have come back to them sharing that it was too much, that they wished their parents had made the final call in deciding what was best for them (not on everything, of course, but on some huge and overwhelming decisions that affected the whole family.) This hadn’t even occurred to me as a possibility, but it resonated when they said it. Thought I would pass it along 💚

  9. Phyllis Delbuono at 5:16 pm

    I love your blogs. I only wish I had found you as a young mother, but you probably weren’t born yet! 😂 I was married at 26 and became a mom at 28. Now I’m a mom, mom-mom & a great-grand mother. You are real and relatable and your stories let me know that we all face similar problems and joys. And you do it all with amazing humor. Thank you!

  10. NG at 3:12 pm

    Your blog is great, and I’d be sad to see it go. But what about Holden? Does he get a say? Granted, more stories are about Zoey than him or the family as a whole, but his opinion should count too.

  11. George Pope at 3:09 pm

    Please don’t end it! I love your blog & read every post! You’ve touched so many lives, and for the better — But, obviously, if your kids have an issue with it, you’ll be looking at it seriously. Hopefully Zoey never changes — she’s an AWESOME kid raised by an AWESOME mom who taught her to be self-actuated in such a healthy way! Hopefully she’ll pass it on forward. . .