Dear Mark Zuckerberg,
I am a mom. I became a mom eight years ago, and it was the most exciting, confusing, amazing, terrifying, isolating, happy, exhausting time of my life. There were plenty of hours of the day that I was with my husband or friends, but there were also a crazy number of hours that I was alone. So alone.
When I first started breastfeeding, my daughter would crying loudly while I cried silently because I felt like a failure. And even once I got the hang of it, I would sit there nursing her in the middle of the night in a chair in the dark with no one to speak to. I felt so alone.
So when she was about nine or ten-months-old and I was coming out of the thick fog that all new moms feel, I started a Facebook Page. It’s called Baby Sideburns. It started off as purely entertainment but it quickly changed into something else. A community. A community of moms who turn to my page when they’re feeling that isolation. A community of moms who support each other when we make mistakes and need to know that it’s normal. A community of moms who can answer each other’s questions because we don’t have time to read a whole baby book. A community of moms who laugh together, cry together, keep each other sane, and accidentally pee a little together every time we laugh too hard. Which happens often on my page.
Tonight I read your Facebook post. In a nutshell you said that you’re demoting pages and aren’t going to share them in newsfeeds much anymore because you want to connect people. Well, if you don’t share my page (and many MANY others), you’re keeping people apart. Communities of people who live all around the planet.
We might not meet each other for coffee or have school reunions together or meet up at the local bar, but we are still friends. I’ve been seeing the same names come through my comments throughout the years. Heather Garcia. Krystal Mehrohf. Katie Coburn. I’m not looking these names up. I know them because they are a part of my community.
And right this very second a woman is becoming a new mom and she’s so scared and so alone, and I hate to think that she won’t be able to find a page on Facebook to help her through the thick fog that every new mother enters. Please don’t destroy the communities that have been born and grown and evolved on Facebook. Find another way.
What can you do if you are reading this and want to remain a part of the Baby Sideburns community?
- You should subscribe to this blog right below. Maybe I’ll just start doing all of my daily posts here.
- You should follow me on my other social media channels like YouTube and Instagram. I’ll be moving a lot of my stuff to those more consistent platforms.
- You can keep liking and sharing and commenting whenever you’re one of the lucky ones who gets to see a post from me.
- You can feel like a dork and give yourself a hug from me. Thank you!!